Writing Tip #7: If At First You Don't Succeed... Take a Break Before Your Brain Explodes.

This will be a short one, written while I'm waiting to get a ride back home, but this is possibly the most important lesson I've learned in the last year of stresses of "real life" getting dumped into a blender with my brain, my free time and my first failed attempt at a novel, and all of it getting puréed together, so I wanted to share it with you all: I'm here to talk about the paramount importance of taking a breather after you've written that first draft of a book.

I'm sure we've all grown up hearing the expression about "try, try again", and I won't argue that that's not an important part of success; you get your butt kicked the first time by something you really want/need to achieve, then you pick yourself up and tackle the thing full-on again. That's how you get the things really worth having.

Of course, tackling something hard more than once hurts. A lot. Especially if you're unprepared, and still getting your breath back from Round 1. 

Case in point: writing a book, then having that agravatingly clear hindsight inform you that all that effort didn't plop out that instant hit your were hoping for. 

Your stomach sinks. Round 1 kicks your confidence in the gut. But you're down, not out! So up you get, and back to it you go.

You want it to go like this: 

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But it ends up ending more like this:

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...with varying degrees of tears and tissues. Round 2 (and maybe 3, and 4... depending on how big of a glutton for punishment you are) leaves you in emotional traction.

Not good. And certainly bound to make you far exceed your allowable budget for whichever comforting deliciousness you subscribe to, to deal with feeling squashed by what used to be bright and sunny aspirations of awesomeness (e.g: pizza... wine... pizza with wine... lots of pizza with lots of wine... your weight in peanut M&Ms - not speaking from experience of course... sigh).

So this week's writing tip in a nutshell: pace yourself. Seriously. 

There may be those among you who write something and have no problem at all getting it polished and good to go. I commend you and envy you in equal parts! But then there are those (myself included) who pour a lot of time and energy into something that ends up not working, and the task of fixing it ends up being something they're not quite up to just yet. From my own experience and many fellow writing nerds I've spoken to about this, that second kind of writer is a lot more common than the first.

The important part is to cut yourself some slack, and give your brain room to figure it out. Finish writing what you're writing of course (no matter what you think of it), then go through it afterwards with a forgiving eye. If you find yourself wanting/needing to fix the poor sucker but at a loss as to where to start, take a few big steps back for as long as you need. Put it on a shelf, and start something else in the meantime. Come back to it later and try again - I guarantee the time away will have cleared your head enough for you to work your way through whether to scrap it, fix it, or rewrite it altogether, and it'll do it without leaving your delicate writer ego as a pile of quivering mush.

Be better than mush. You'll live longer, feel happier... and not have the local pizza place know your name and usual order off by heart.

Not that that happened to me... damnit.